You’ve all heard the classic friend-turned-romance love story, right? Boy meets Girl. Boy and Girl are friends for years, helping each other through life’s struggles and failed relationships. All the sudden Girl and/or Boy realize that somewhere along the way they’ve fallen in love.
My favorite example is the movie Made of Honor. Love the movie, love Patrick Dempsey. Anyone else?
Anyway, what I’m trying to get at is that we don’t always see what’s right under our nose, and often not until it’s too late. Well, unless you burst into the church riding a horse, steal back your girl and get punched in the face… (reference again to Made of Honor).
Sometimes we don’t see it because we’re just blissfully ignorant. Ha. NOT. Let’s be honest, we’re usually just scared. Scared of messing up what we already have and what we’re comfortable with, scared of what other people will think, or scared to tell the truth to ourselves. When did we lose that carefree attitude from childhood? That ability to leap without looking, having faith that everything will work out in the end. Somehow we developed this fear, a need to hold ourselves back with the restraint and dignity of an adult.
Another great movie reference is You’ve Got Mail. How after a while Meg Ryan realizes deep down that Tom Hanks is the guy from her emails and that she’s falling in love with him. She can’t, however, admit it to anyone, let alone herself, because she’s afraid of what people would think and afraid of taking a a leap away from what’s comfortable for her.
Sometimes we might build something up so much in our minds that we can’t tell what’s real and what isn’t, what’s right for us and what we just wish were right. But what if things don’t always end up like they do in the movies? What if months after the credits roll, Tom and Meg annoy the crap out of each other and break up? When do you know when something is meant to be, or whether you just wish it were?
I guess you never know unless you make the jump.
What’s an instance in your life where you took the leap?
Anyone here in a relationship with someone who used to be a friend?
Anyone else love Made of Honor or You’ve Got Mail?